Let’s get up close and personal for a minute.
I’ve always dreamed big, dwelled in possibility, loved helping people and wanted to create a wonderful life for myself and my family.
Have you noticed though that sometimes, when you aren’t looking, life throws rocks at you? If you’re human, you’re not immune from being on the receiving end of a pelting of rocks sometimes. Hopefully you’ve been pelted with more rose petals than rocks in your life.
My life growing up in Texas was sweet. My parents gave me a loving, stable home – which was good because we moved often. In first grade, we lived in three different towns.
Moving so much made it hard to make friends. Just when I’d get settled and had a circle of friends, we’d move again. Rocks. I was continually having to reinvent my life in a new town with a new set of people.
No wonder I got mad at recess one day because no one was my friend and, at age six, I walked all the way home, knowing no one would be there, on a route I had only ever traveled a few times in a car, and sat on the front steps until the principal came and dragged me back to school.
After college, I married a wonderful man and began teaching. I loved teaching but soon became restless. I felt called to be more, bigger and have greater impact. Not really knowing what to do instead, I followed my husband into law.
While clerking at a law firm the summer before my final semester, I was in a horrific boating accident. In nothing short of a miracle, I survived the night. I had seven surgeries in the span of a month and later was told that, even if I survived all that, the doctors expected bacteria from the lake water to kill me.
A hyperbaric chamber, two more surgeries and six months later, I had recuperated enough to return to law school with the support of my amazing husband and a wobbly pair of crutches.
Four months later, still on crutches, I hobbled across the stage to collect my law school diploma. It was a joyful moment I shared with the ones who pulled me through – my husband and parents.
Following law school, I quickly learned what areas of the law I didn’t enjoy while working at a large law firm.
Serendipity led me to my passion! After suffering the loss of a child through miscarriage and 14 long years of painful infertility, we rejoiced at the adoption of our first child. Inspired by our own adoption experience, I founded my solo adoption law practice that same month.
I’ve helped create over 600 families through adoption in my career so far.
I’ve always believed in the wisdom of investing in real estate and began buying rental houses as soon as we could afford it. It was all rose petals for quite a while until the 2008 recession hit. A ton of rocks knocked me flat. I was devastated financially, but even worse, emotionally crushed.
It took me years to regain my self-confidence and optimistic outlook. I didn’t trust myself to make good decisions. I felt such shame. You see, despite facts to the contrary, I believed the downturn in my law practice and my real estate losses from the global recession were things I could have prevented. It can be soul-crushing when our minds play such mean tricks on us.
I worried and wondered . . .
Would I ever be successful again?
Would I ever feel worthy of my own and others’ respect?
How will I make money?
After all these years . . . Who am I?
Will I ever be able to retire?
Lucky for me, I had a good foundation for rebounding. In addition to my supportive family, I had devoted years to learning techniques for turning a business around, overcoming challenges and living a happy, fulfilled life. I began to seek out those books again and people who inspired me. I worked with several business coaches in different fields.
I spent years and thousands of dollars trying to find the right solution to “fix” me. I floundered again and again but, looking back, I realize that I was constantly learning, trying, failing, pivoting and learning from what didn’t work. Nevertheless, it was a demoralizing period.
One sunshiny day, all that I had been learning and doing suddenly coalesced. It was as if a light switch flipped on and I was able to see what I could not see before. I was surprised to realize that the very thing I had been resisting so mightily is, in fact, my calling – and I was prepared to take it on.
Everything changed for me in that moment. My zest for life, my confidence, my creativity, my optimism, my joy came flooding in. My sleepy law practice came roaring back. My real estate holdings rebounded. All in all, things look rosier now.
Best of all, my love of teaching and mentoring came bounding out of the basement where I had locked it away. I realized my many years of business experience and obsession for learning about business, marketing, product design, human behavior, mindset, technology, the internet and providing value to people had prepared me to be of service to others.
An unshakable confidence emerged. I became inspired and determined. I was back – with more energy, focus and drive than ever before! Overnight, unsolicited, as if by magic, business owners began seeking my help.
When life is throwing rocks at you, remember you were born for a reason. There’s a purpose for your life and you were born to live boldly, unapologetically, and to create something bigger than yourself. But YOU have to activate this calling. No one is going to turn it on for you! It’s your responsibility to mold yourself into a person who has the ability to create a great life.
The power already exists IN YOU to develop the mental strength, emotional intelligence and physical health to have the life you want. It’s your choice to continue pounding the rocks in frustration life gives you or plant a rose garden instead.
I know life circumstances sometimes can be challenging, and it may seem like you’re in a rut you’ll never escape. I’m living proof that you can. If a small town girl from Texas, who has been broken and beaten in every way – physically, financially, mentally and emotionally – can do it, then so can you!
Your dreams matter because YOU Matter! If you commit yourself to learning the wisdom, skills and tools to write your own story, you can build the business you desire and create the great life that is your birthright. Claim it!
Become the hero of your own story. Start the journey with me today because the world needs you and your many gifts, my friend!
You are love and light!
My warmest wishes,